Over the weekend A and I went to Winston-Salem, NC for a quick trip to meet with friends. Winston-Salem is also where he went to high school and undergrad, so he takes me to his old haunts whenever we’re in the area. This time, he introduced me to McKay’s used bookstore.
It has such a great selection of books, movies, CDs, and more. But seriously, the books. So good! I had to practice self-control, because our home is turning into a library (not a bad thing—just a space issue).
However, I’ve really wanted to grow my knowledge of women studies, feminism, etc., and the best way to do that seems to be starting “at the very beginning” (to quote Julie Andrews in The Sound of Music—which I did sing while leaving the store). So, when I found a great copy of The Feminine Mystique by Betty Friedan with an intro by Anna Quindlen, I grabbed it!
One of my sources of extreme frustration is when I hear or read females (teenage, young woman, woman, older woman—doesn’t matter) say they don’t need feminism. They typically add that equality isn’t an issue in our country, and that things are far worse in other parts of the world.
I agree…to an extent. Women in the United States do have more equality than women in, say, Saudi Arabia. However, as one who has experienced sexism in the work place, social life, etc., I have to advocate for the rights of women—even the ones who say they don’t need it.
Growing up, I thought “feminist” and “feminism” were bad words. I equated feminists with man-haters. I never imagined I would become a feminist. However, in college I encountered three young women, peers of mine, who helped shift my perspective. Thanks to them, and others, I look for ways to protect myself and other women from patriarchy—whether imposed by men or other women.
We all know the stereotype of females being called “catty.” That needs to go away, along with the words “nag”, “whore”, “hoe”, “bossy”, and many other terms and phrases that, when used in association with women, are meant to “put her in her place.” We need to start, from a young age, showing support, advocacy, love, and encouragement to our fellow ladies! Women supporting women has the potential to create a huge cultural and social shift. Let’s do this together!
What do you do to help influence the way the world interacts with and treats women? How do you support the girls/women in your sphere of influence? I believe it’s an ongoing, reconditioning of how we view the world around us and how we interact with it.